Learn the definition of womanhood from a transwoman
Interview by Radhika Kalani, former Director of Outreach for Global Girlhood
I had the honor of speaking with Lexi a little time ago. We had a great conversation and I learned about her courage, her vulnerable moments, and how she wants to make a difference in this world. See below for some questions and answers (not word to word) that we exchanged.
How would you describe yourself?
I am a dark-haired femme and badass boss babe. When you think of Lex, you think of a girl on a motorcycle with a leather jacket.
What does your name mean?
I was named Alex Chandra at birth. Chandra comes from my father, who is from India. Chandra represents planetary motions and spiritually and this resonated with me growing up.
What is your favorite memory as a child?
As a trans person, there is trauma before, during, and after the whole transition phase. I am living through my second childhood right now since my first childhood consisted of finding my true self.
Who inspires you?
Queer elders of color inspire me. They are the living testament of what can be done. They are the epitome of survivors. I feel safe at the LGBTQ senior citizen center. We knew we could transition together. We have a mother-daughter bond. They taught me about womanhood.
What is your proudest accomplishment?
My transition. To have to recreate yourself at the age at 24 in and of itself is an accomplishment. This allowed me to know myself well. Trust myself. Feel all my feelings. Not just think about my feelings or gaslight my gut.
What do you want to do in the near future?
Hard work is heart work. I want to keep building community. I am not an activist. I am a digital organizer. I create content to feel, not to just think of -isms and -phias. I want to become a therapist. Synchronizing heartbeats is my calling. I want to recalibrate vibrations and fine tune my timing. I want to decolonize therapy and have a therapy clientele of trans women of color.
What advice do you want to share with others?
Ask women to ask about womanhood from a transwoman. Empower yourself – place value on yourself and don’t depend on others. And last, respect yourself.